Observe
- Scan appearance, clothing, and posture
- Read expressions and accessories
- Note the surroundings for clues
Interpret
- Form possible stories from the clues
- Infer habits and likely experiences
- Use psychology, not assumption
Calibrate
- Make broad statements to test
- Ask open-ended questions
- Watch which probes land
Refine
- Listen for verbal confirmations
- Watch non-verbal reactions
- Discard what fails to land
Focus
- Double down on what resonates
- Add specific detail to broad hits
- Reframe statements that miss
Connect
- Deliver insights with quiet confidence
- Show empathy to build trust
- Convert rapport into openness
Read The Body
- Track posture and gestures
- Note eye contact and comfort
- Catch nervous habits and tells
Universal Lines
- Open with broad relatable statements
- Suggest hidden change they consider
- Adjust to every reaction