Recon

• Read patterns, not just words
• Spot love bombing and early overwhelming charm
• Note devaluation, gaslighting, and triangulation
• Track the perpetual victim narrative

Assess Threat

• Rate manipulation and entitlement levels
• Measure empathy and accountability
• Map their need for control
• Gauge the risk to you

Establish OPSEC

• Share strictly on need-to-know
• Treat oversharing as a liability
• Document patterns; trust data over feelings
• Withhold emotional confessions

Gray Rock

• Stay boring, neutral, and non-reactive
• Make yourself uninteresting to target
• Deny emotional reactions to feed on
• Anticipate moves and stay ahead

Set Boundaries

• State limits calmly, clearly, concisely
• Never justify or debate
• Attach consequences and follow through
• Expect pushback as survival reflex

Boundary Scripts

• Say: I am not discussing this
• Say: I need space
• Reject disrespect: not spoken to that way
• Warn: if you continue, I leave

Threat Cycle

• Recognize discard, love bomb, devalue, hoover
• Expect hoovering when you pull away
• Brace for escalation at boundaries
• Stay steady as you outgrow control

Exfil Clean

• Cut contact without explanation
• Enforce boundaries consistently every time
• Remove leverage and shared exposure
• Protect your peace and resources